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“From anxiety to clarity”
By Feela Light
Before you carry on reading, I’d like you to close your eyes, breathe in deeply through the nose, and exhale slowly through the mouth. As you breathe in, let your stomach come out and when you breathe out, let your stomach come in. Let the exhale be longer than the inhale. With every exhale, intentionally letting go of stress, anxiety, disease and any negativity. I encourage you to let out a sigh and a sound. Repeat these 5 times. Remaining your focus always on the breath.
Breath is life.
To breathe is to live and without breath, there is no life.
Man can go without food and water for a pretty long period of time, but could you imagine what would happen if you couldn’t breathe?
Breath is life, but it is also a powerful tool that we can use to improve our emotional, mental and physical well-being, such as to release stress, develop clarity and inner peace, ground and centre, heal from past trauma and overall find our inner calm.
We live in a time where things are not slowing down and it is up to us to take care of ourselves if we wish to not just to survive but to thrive in all areas of our life. To really enjoy our life, happy and healthy!
Can you relate?
I wake up, as my eyes open, I’m already thinking about all I got to do to get ready. As I’m eating breakfast, I’m already on my way to work, dreading the rush hour. As I’m on the tube, my mind is on the endless list of things I got to do at work. As I arrive at work, I can’t wait for lunch, what will I have, I ask myself? As I’m eating my lunch, I’m thinking how long until I got to go back to work. Once I’m back at work, oh I can’t wait to leave! As I’m on my way home, I’m already thinking about what I’ll have for dinner. As I’m eating dinner, I’m thinking about having sex with my partner. As I’m having sex with my partner, I’m already thinking about when it’s finished and we got to go sleep. As I’m going sleep my mind is already thinking about tomorrow!
This was me x10! I had anxiety and panic attacks, I was depressed, always stressed, filled with fear, doubt, worry and thoughts of suicide. My mind was always racing and I was always reacting to every thought, so I always have done everything to escape from it or numb it using alcohol, drugs, sex, shopping because I didn’t know any different. When I say I had a problem, I mean it was out of control! And, I found myself in a vicious never-ending cycle which just got worse and worse, taking me to a darker place until I hit my rock bottom.
After coming back from living in Ibiza for 6 months, I was pregnant, with STD`s, a knife in my hand, a life that was a mess and I couldn’t bear to even look at myself in the mirror. I hated everything I had become. As I asked the question “How did I get here?” I heard a voice say “You created everything!” While I didn’t fully understand, and it was painful, every word resonated. I could feel it calling me to look within!
It was the first time I took responsibility for my life and I found acceptance within myself to admit I had a problem not just with alcohol but my mental and emotional state and overall lifestyle. As I got really honest with myself, looking at everything I had suppressed and hid from, everything I was ashamed of and angry as I felt lighter. I felt hope and began to see the light at the end of the tunnel, knowing that I can create a different future for myself. I didn’t know how, but I was okay with that. This was the first day when things began to change because I chose to be my own saviour.
I am ever so grateful and blessed for the darkness, trauma and pain in my life because it gave me the opportunity to rediscover my inner power and my healing abilities, which we all have within. I am no different from you, if I can do it so can you!
More so, it`s because of it I am able to do the work I do, so how can I not be grateful?
I welcome you to find the gratitude and blessings from your pain, trauma and darkness then watch the healing that takes place.
My journey to healing, growth and transformation began! I started reading books, changing my diet, exercising, spending more time in nature, letting go of toxic relationships, meditating in silence days in and days out, I stopped smoking and drinking, I spent hours on top of hours on my own, exploring and questioning. I worked with coaches, therapist and mentors. I attended events, workshops, silent meditation retreat and working with plant medicine. I started travelling solo, hiking in the mountains of the lake district, attending ceremonies, doing things I had never done before. Most of all I kept studying and implementing everything I studied, I kept looking within, always! Asking myself the questions: How did I create this? What Can I learn from this? What is this reflecting back at me? What did I contribute to this? How can I show up differently next time?
Remember, the work you do this year is creating the results for next year! It doesn’t matter the work you do while everyone is watching when nothing is going on behind clothes doors!
There are many powerful yet simple tools I used on my own journey that I also now use with clients. One of the top tools that I believe can change and improve anyone’s life is conscious intentional breathing.
My journey with breath started, working with a breathwork therapist in Estonia. It was mind-blowing and transformational. She was incredible at what she has done, with a pure heart and knew how to hold space. But that doesn’t mean it felt good at the beginning. After my few experiences I decided to become more aware of how I breathe and practice intentional breathing consistently so one day it becomes natural. Still to this day I am amazed at the power of breath!
Here is more about breath…
When one lives their life continuously in this state of being, of not being present one will experience stress. Stress for the mind, body and soul! Who would like a bit of that? Stress which leads to anxiety, depression, aches, pains, tension, illness, disease and disconnect from their spirit.
Why is it that you really enjoy 1-hour yoga, dance, meditation, art class, a cup of your favourite something or when you take that 10 mins to read your book? Any ideas?
Because you are present. When one is present, they feel good, their body is relaxed and their mind is not in the past or future.
When one is not present, one is most likely not also breathing properly, their mind is always somewhere else, which causes stress for the mind and body because they are connected.
Let me just add that most of us are not breathing properly!
Now, imagine where it would lead to when one is most of the time in a state of stress, what that does to the body, your emotional and mental state?
When one is present with a task, one is able to focus all their energy into that task, one is able to be and do their best. One will be more efficient and is bound to get better results because they feel good within. Not just that, but when one is present, one can begin to find the joy in your everyday mundane task, such as washing dishes or hoovering. One will also begin to notice the beauty that surrounds them at all times. One will experience a more peaceful, joyous life!
While it’s great to do an hour here and there, could you imagine if you lived in that calm, centred, clear state of mind? How much your life would improve? What you could achieve or experience? How good you’d feel?
For me, things really changed when I decided to bring this meditative state that I experienced during meditation, into my everyday life. While I would meditate in the morning and evening and while it was a tool that took me also on a journey of rediscovery and finding my inner calm, I realised that conscious intentional breathing is something I can practice every day, where ever I am and whatever I am doing. I realised that it’s one of the fastest ways in any given moment to bring me back to the present, to begin to live in a meditative state, whether I was experiencing anxiety, confusion, conflict, or intense emotions whether I was about to work with a client, on the tube during rush hour, working at the salon.
Try it out yourself the moment you experience anxiety or something similar, just begin to breathe. Notice how in moments you feel calmer and have a clear head. Breath takes you to stillness and silence and that’s where the Magic lies!
Did you know that every emotion has its own rhythm of breath?
This is why conscious intentional breathing is so powerful because you have the ability to influence your inner experience whether it’s mental or emotional in a positive way, it helps you release anything emotional with ease and break the pattern of mental chatter, that vicious cycle of thought that can be pretty hard to get out of, once you’re in it. It brings you back to your natural state of love.
The breath helps you to slow down your inner world.
Here are some simple, easy yet powerful tips and techniques for your journey:
- Practice the technique which I shared with you at the beginning of this article, 5 times every morning, evening and any other time if you like.
- Become aware of your breathing throughout the day. Can you find the link between your breathing and emotional/mental/physical state? How are you breathing? Are you mostly in a rush throughout the day?
- When you find yourself in confusion, conflict, experiencing anxiety or stress close your eyes for just a moment. Even if you are out travelling, you can step aside and close your eyes. Take your focus to your breath and slowly begin to breathe in and out.
- Another technique to help you connect with your heart, womb, gut and body is similar to the one we practised at the beginning. But here you put one hand on your heart and another on your stomach. You begin to breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth. Breathing deep but slow with the intention to connect with your body.
- Join a breathwork class or better yet work with a breathwork therapist.
- Do some research and studying yourself, there are many books out about the power of breath.
Remember, just breathe!