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Emotions are contagious.
By Winnie Mabena
Usually when asked; “ how are you?” we tend to say fine or okay even when we are not, because that is the response we have subjected our minds to respond. While this goes on, the person on the other side is mostly waiting for a response … the words then to listen to a response by checking eye contact or heart to heart connections and listen to what the face says.
This may result in emotional suppression from both sides especially the respondent; the respondent will think the person asking is not caring enough to be trusted to pour out his or her pain while the other party may have noticed the respondent is going through something painful but he can’t offer a solution as he assumes answering fine is saying its personal and I don’t want you to know about it.
The person hiding pain is mostly in touch with others while out of touch with self. This has happened to a lot of us, we have in one way or another hidden our pain mostly for feeling ashamed, for fear of rejection and lack of trust for people we think of to console us in those needing times.
Just like suppressing a disease, suppressing emotions does not mean the emotion will go away but it subsides, sinks deeper while slow suicide of self takes its course. This implies that, as we choose to suppress our emotions and hold them inside, we consciously decide to live with an infection that when left untreated can lead to death, depression, suffocation and denial.
However, some believe that emotional suppression is essential to survive traumatic experiences and protecting oneself from abuse and violence. This follows believing that being real to feel some emotions shows your weaknesses and often lives room for others to undermine your ability especially to lead self.
Regardless, it’s best to find a healthier way to deal with our emotions as they can result in damaging experiences which include causing misunderstandings or conflict in families, relationships, at the workplace and other. It’s important that those that you love with or care for know exactly when you are happy, sad or needing support. This will help you to stay content while those giving you support will help you review yourself and positively criticise you if need be but from a place of saying “ I want the best of you to manifest beyond this challenge”. To get this done we have to be willing to let out emotions freely, acknowledge our weaknesses and acknowledge that we need help.
Take a pose for a moment; did you know that emotions are contagious? Well, think through this again when you begin to think denial is survival. It must be clear at this point that life’s best resolution for abundance is not in suppressing emotions but helping self to generally control emotions by learning to control thoughts. Remember that we use our mind to develop clear ideas and develop distinct objectives that will get you into a habit of making effective decisions to react upon situations and events than suppressing your emotions or how you feel or look at something. Thus running away from what is will never be a solution and sometimes you may run to what’s deeper than what you left. Learn to apply emotional intelligence to face the giants of what may occur in life so you can better improve yourself by developing strategies for thought control like learning to shift your emotions from the unpleasant to the pleasant while you seek solutions for your pain.
You must also be aware that sometimes what we so much want to feel can drain us because the response may not be as our expectations.
It is then important to know whether or not you are well, need help or support than to harbour heavy emotional pain believing it will eventually go away in the space of time. For this reason, I recommend accepting what is as a first step to addressing pain in any situation. Accepting that this is what it is, for now, will help you identify the depth of the problem, its urgent need for a solution and best strategies to deal with as this will allow you to express your realities. In a case of needing healing for the loss of a loved one in death or circumstance say breaking up with your boyfriend, or losing a job, or failing an interview; accepting that healing takes time is not just a solution to suppressing emotions but steady recovery and involuntary memories.
To deal with the emotions you so much desire to hide, I urge you to always work at maintaining a hopeful attitude believing that this too shall pass and you have the ability to solve that problem all you need is to learn how. Of course, it’s important to allow your self to be you but this can be achieved by staying in the space of those that let you be you without judging you. This will help you release those fears especially positive fears, fearful emotions and talk about it in a way that will lead you to find a solution or what next. This coupled with embracing your spiritual life whenever you fall in a challenge is grace to attain supernatural powers to face emotional trauma while believing that “ I am a core creator and so I am in charge, not the problem or I am the actor in this “drama” “.
Always know that a release for your spirit is very important for emotional healing and for exuding steady emotions. No matter what we go through in life, our values, dignity, skills and principles and everything else will always remain unbroken and so why not deal with the emotions which can destroy our destiny if not treated?…..