The Key To Jealousy By Kate Caddle When we compare ourselves to others, the issue isn’t in noticing the difference between the other person, and ourselves. We hit discomfort because we give away our power. And when we give away our power, we lose connection to...
Environment is everything.
Where to even begin with this subject?
By Dawn Bates
On a daily basis, we are faced with so many challenges, the ones in the physical world where we see pollutants dropped into the ocean, litter on the ground, single-use plastics being banned, global warming announcements and a whole lot more besides.
We have warnings about mental health problems, physical health problems, schools issues, negative news stories filling our minds and breaking our hearts, and yet many of us do very little to protect ourselves from the situations we find ourselves in.
Our relationships with loved ones are strained, we are exhausted from taking care of others and many of us wish to simply hide under the duvet or escape the world of social media and the dramas showing up in our newsfeeds.
So what can we do?
Well as many of my clients find out during our sessions, it is time to put healthy boundaries in place, cut contact, protect our spaces and clear the clutter; but how do we do this?
How do we cut ties with people who have been part of our lives for years? How do we cut ties with family? How do we fire the clients who drain the life and soul from us? How do we walk away from a job that pays for the home we live in, puts food on the table and pays for the clothing we need?
For me, it is pretty easy, for others not so much. It hasn’t always been easy for me, in fact at the beginning it was terribly hard. I was reluctant to walk away, came up with excuses such as “we’ve been through so much with each other”, “they are lovely people really”, “they are family”, “I need the money” but these were all excuses, and also choices I made.
Getting present to the feelings and emotions that came up every time someone messaged me or came into my space was a big indicator as to how the relationship played out with every interaction. Was I excited to get a message from them? Was I happy to spend time in their company, or did I dread opening an email, message or bumping into them in the street?
Recently I went through all social media platforms and my phone. Who was in my space that made me roll my eyes? Who was no longer lighting me up? Who was constantly bringing drama in my life, distracting me from what I needed to do? Who did I remember? Who had I said goodbye to years ago and yet still took up space in my phone? All great tell-tale signs of how much we had both moved on in life.
Then I went through each and every area of life; my wardrobe, my home, my possessions, and anything that did not belong in the future I was creating for myself. Stuff went to charity shops, the skip or onto a fire. It was liberating!
Releasing this negative energy, this clutter was such a relief!
So I got ruthless and repeated the whole process again on a monthly basis. There are some people such as family members, who I love dearly, but cannot spend time with, I put a distance between us. I didn’t cut ties, but the distance was vast. If they were not someone I would spend time with socially, and enjoy spending time with, then they had to go.
We are after all the sum total of the five people we spend the most time with; and this includes the clients we work with, the colleagues we work with, people we collaborate with.
Evolution is a constant thing. It is a daily, hourly and momentary process. Each piece of information we receive through music, signage, TV and radio, podcasts and films, ALL of it impact us in a variety of ways and we have to get present to the impact it has on us mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
We are all energy, and the energy people bring into our lives sticks to us like glue. Imagine walking along the street and standing in chewing gum, and how sticky it feels as we walk along. Do we keep walking on it? Or do we remove it? By leaving it, it becomes less sticky, less uncomfortable, we adjust, we put up with it, and sooner or later we forget it is there.
The same goes for energy, and unless we remove the negative energies we become unaware of the impact it has on us. Our bodies compensate for it. We carry ourselves differently, we attract more of the same and we don’t even notice it; until we remove it and then experience life without it.
Sometimes those we remove from our lives will attack us, privately and sometimes publicly, sharing their upset and the dirty laundry with anyone who will listen. They behave in spiteful and nasty ways, accusing us of things we haven’t done, calling us narcissists, attacking our personal appearance or our dreams for the future; confirmation that they really do not belong in our lives.
The pain of rejection they feel, the mirror we hold up to them as we move through life towards our dream life, taking different paths can be too much; but this is not our stuff to deal with, it is theirs and only they can heal the wounds within themselves. We are all responsible for our own healing and happiness, our own environments.
We are the creators of our own environments, the Kings and Queens of our own domain and it is up to us to ensure it is clean, happy and filled with love, from the inside out. Love is the greatest vibration in which to operate from, and if there are areas of our lives which we do not love, then we have work to do, changes to make and boundaries to set.
So embrace the joy.
Be open to receiving all the juicy goodness in life.
Welcome the abundance the Universe has in store for you.
Love areas of self, all areas of the world you are creating and remember, life is an adventure, go live it your way, on your own terms with your kind of people because when you do, you’ll never look back.
With love, always.