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How Being Visible Has Been The Most Healing Experience For My Inner Growth.
By Juliette Stapleton
Two years ago I found myself feeling stuck and burning with a desire to do something impossible with my life: to take control of everything I can and, in a way, things I couldn’t. This was what I felt as the news was sinking in: my husband was fighting the most aggressive form of Cancer and he was not doing that well. This was the moment that has started the most amazing journey in my life.
Visibility is something I was always a natural at, even being an introvert. I was also a natural entrepreneur, but I did not realise that for the first 40 years of my life. In fact, I have been beating myself up for not being able to get along with authority in my jobs. I always felt that my initiatives are undermined and not needed and often this resulted in me getting really demotivated. I also had difficulty following directions I did not agree with or creating close relationships with my workmates (I was not one for going out after work, and this always lead to me being an outsider and often bullied for being different and having “the wall” around me. Classic signs of an entrepreneurial introvert!
So when I started my own business in 2012, things became a little easier- I could decide on my own direction or activities, but I was still working with an “employee mindset” – taking clients who were wrong for me only to be getting paid regularly, undercharging, not setting boundaries. I found myself working with people who did not appreciate and even questioned my expertise – the most damaging to your self-worth position you can be in. To make things worse, I was still attracting weirdos, bullies and people who I shared absolutely nothing in common.
So when that day when I learned about my husband’s cancer came, I decided that enough is enough! I was done being a victim, and I was done giving energy to negativity. I made a decision to NEVER focus on my problems again and only focus on the determination to create a life of my dreams – together with my fully recovered husband, of course! I decided to build something that will allow me to be in control where I live, who I work with (and I decided to only work with people I really like) and on my own terms.
What this required was for me to be much more visible to more people, so I can find and attract the right one with my best asset – ME!
I chose Facebook as my center stage. A platform that allows us to empower, connect, and create relationships that are meaningful and real! And deep in my gut, I felt that this is exactly what will help me create those opportunities I wanted to create!
What I did not realise then and what I know for sure right now is that no matter how scary stepping into the spotlight and connecting to strangers is – it is also the most healing experience you can imagine!
Firstly, because unlike in a geographical location, on Facebook you get to attract people who are exactly like you. Like a huge family of soulmates, you had no idea were there. Genuine. Caring. Supportive. Inspiring.
This means you stop feeling that you are alone on this journey. You realise that people who do not agree with you are simply wrong people, and with over two billion users, there is plenty of those who will adore, worship or, at the very minimum, appreciate you. Just as you are!
Secondly, as you keep showing up and pushing through your fear of being ‘found out’ as a fraud or fear of attention, you see that you are actually changing people’s lives with your energy. Even before they come into your business – you already make a huge impact on the course of their lives as they feel inspired and empowered by you. And that is the best feeling in the world.
To summarise, as you start giving off your unique energy, your beautiful light to others in this world, that energy and that lights come back multiplied and not just heals you. It upgrades you. It helps you let go of your fears. It helps you let go of your perfectionism. It helps you accept your weaknesses and quirks. It helps you show up just as you are and this is exactly what other people want- your authenticity!
It has been a fantastic journey, and yes, it resulted in something impossible- my husband is recovered, he is doing great, and we are now planning to move to a better country to live, as my business has created the financial security we needed.
How would it feel if you realised one day, that the life of your dreams is already here? You are living it. Not because you have the money, because you feel in the flow, happy, trusting the journey you are on and looking forward to the next upgrade? This is where I am now, and it is all because that day I decided to become VISIBLE!