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How do you choose to show up in life.
By Nina Sadlowsky
Do you know these moments in life when you feel like being in the mud? Those times when you feel low in energy, demotivated, overwhelmed and simply exhausted? When you question the things you are doing?
Yes, the mud comes in many facets, in different shapes and forms, yet it always leaves us feeling stuck. And it’s not easy to pull yourself out of the mud, right?
I feel you. Over the last years, I have felt stuck in the mud more than once, but I also understood more with every single day of my life that it is only up to me, whether I’m stuck or free, tired or energetic, bored or motivated, exhausted or active.
Maybe you disagree thinking that certain life situations put you into that mental and emotional state and that you can’t do anything about it. But let’s be honest here. It’s always up to you, me and us!
We all have faced the muddy times in our lives, yet what really matters is the answer to the following question:
“How do you show up when you are in the mud?”
Isn’t there a temptation to make excuses, to be lazy and to hide from that situation? Yes, I hear you, but what I believe we do is we actually hide from our own life.
Because, we all have tough times and although I sometimes wish we didn’t, I truly believe they are part of our life and that they do serve a specific purpose.
The purpose of reflection, change, expansion and growth.
So, let me ask you:
“When you are in the mud, which excuses are you reaching for?”
I encourage you to write them down, not only now, but whenever you are in the mud, with the objective of deepening your awareness for the excuses you are reaching for.
- Are you tired?
- Is perfectionism getting into your way?
- Do you not have enough time, money or knowledge?
I am certainly more of a perfectionist than I am not, but thanks to my well established, daily awareness practice, I observed that my perfectionism has probably been one of my biggest excuses.
What does perfectionism mean?
To me, perfectionism means I’m choosing to be less of myself. Nobody is perfect, never has been, never will. Neither will the conditions ever be perfect, that’s just not going to happen and we all know that!
I also reflected on the impact that perfectionism has on our lives and I found that it is the biggest thief of joy. It also stops our actions, it keeps us from progressing and it hinders us to fully show up as ourselves.
And you are a beautiful person inside out, you are unique and perfect in not being perfect.
So, if perfectionism is such a deal breaker to our expansion and growth, why is it that we have this idea of perfectionism in our head? We all know it’s not coming from our heart.
Why do we keep using perfectionism as an excuse? Why do we sabotage ourselves to live in expansion and growth?
I think the answer is simple: We are scared. We are scared of not being enough. We are scared of showing up as ourselves. We are scared of not succeeding, yet also of succeeding. Because we don’t know what comes after the success, right? Maybe we are not ready. Maybe we don’t know how to deal with it all. Maybe we worry about the opinions of others.
But let me tell you that you are always in charge of your life.
- You can choose to pull yourself out of that muddy situation.
- You can choose to live in expansion and growth.
- You can choose to grow into your best self. In every moment of the day.
- You can choose to see a tough time as a massive opportunity to catapult yourself massively forward in life and in business.
“Are you courageous enough to play with the mud?”
Life is a beautiful playground, space where we experience the good and bad times, the light and tense moments, love and fear, expansion and throwbacks. In order to play with the mud and use it for our own expansion and growth, I believe we need to lovingly and playfully look at all the layers within ourselves that don’t serve us any longer. This is a constant process that – when played out fully – will help you tremendously in removing your fears, the fears that make you reach for excuses, such as perfectionism, and that will eventually prevent you from expanding and growing.
“Now, how can you turn this around?”
Ask yourself, how you can use your revealed fears to transfer them into impactful habits. I have found that the best solution is to stay in action every single day. No, I don’t mean the hustle; I talk about taking consistent action every day without the hustle, the busy-ness and the perfection. Know that taking action can be gentle, too, but ensure you take some kind of action. And be aware of the word “sometime”. You can do something consistently in part time or full time, but never ever even think about taking action some time. Or it will kill the action altogether.
Show up consistently for your life and take action every day, if you want to get your desired results. Think about which morning and/or evening activities serve you to take consistent action, actions that keep your energy levels high, that make you gain good momentum, that keep you riding that wave of momentum, that make you choose expansion and growth.
So, do you choose to live in expansion and growth?