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If you had a magic wand…
by Vanessa Louise Moore
“There will be no peace in the world until there is peace within our hearts”
– Marianne Williamson
I once heard my idol and mentor, Wayne Dyer, ask “If you had a magic wand and you could wish for one thing? Would you choose to have appear in your life, everything you have ever wanted, or would you choose to feel an inner peace that meant you could deal with ANYTHING that came your way.
Our lives are made up of the choices we have made and the choices we have allowed others to make for us. Those choices have created habits and it is these habits that orchestrate our lives, determine our beliefs and predict our behaviours ~ and voila!…our lives are manifested before our very eyes.
For many of us we accept the lives we can see, hear, smell, taste and touch as our reality and are often unaware that we are able to change the reality of our outside world. A large percentage of us will blame our outside circumstances and conditionings for the way our lives look and/or we are constantly striving to stay upright on the treadmill of life and ‘keeping up with the Jones’ and fear of missing out or not fitting in, becomes the reason we go through the motions each day in our attempt to acquire more stuff and accomplish the ever eluding dream. Plus we feel there is safety in numbers as we follow the masses. ‘It must be the best and only way if everyone is doing it?” or our fear of raising our heads above the parapet stops us from following our inner guidance system and detaching ourselves from the herd.
All the while we listen to others and our outside circumstances we are denying ourselves the right to live a full and fulfilled and peaceful life, resulting in ill health, struggle and a general feeling of dissatisfaction.
As we gain a deeper understanding about how our lives are an inside job and we feel inspired or called to create the life we want, we can often meet resistance as this new way of living feels alien. To feel any kind of inner peace we need to learn how to control our emotions and to recognise the power in feeling good as often as we can.
Years ago I was merely existing and I was feeling as far away from peace as one could possibly feel. My whole world had turned upside down and everything I had worked for all my life for was falling apart around me. My days existed of feeling sad, hopeless, depressed, frustrated, angry and fearful, to name a few, most of the time. I had felt so bad for so long that the time had come to pray for a miracle.
That miracle came in the form of an inspired thought… If in this moment I have a certain amount of energy to ‘spend’ and I can choose to spend it on something that will make me feel good or something that will make me feel bad, which one would I choose? Once I became aware that my bad feeling will always want me to choose bad feeling and in turn my life will consistently feel and look crappy and that it is fundamental that I deliberately choose good feelings such as gratitude, joy, passion, enthusiasm, excitement and love by finding and doing those things that allow these good feelings to come out and play for me and my life to shift to wherever I choose.
It’s all too easy for us to let other people and outside circumstances, as well as my own EGO (my conscious mind that tells a great story to keep me from living my best life) to dictate how we feel and as a result we feel powerless and open to being bullied, manipulated or shaped by our outside world.
Firstly, it takes a decision to not let any outside influences affect us and how we feel. This is done by admitting there is a supreme power, our spirit, greater than ourselves that governs our lives. We play the important role of housing that spirit and allowing it to express itself through us. Secondly it takes courage to listen, trust and express our own feelings, which we have habitually supressed or ignored for a long time. All of this takes practice as we adapt to a new way of feeling, naturally meeting with resistance and in turn learning to express our true feelings that drive and motivate us so we begin to fully thrive.
I remind myself daily that by being in a strong place of feeling good, ‘I can choose peace other than this’ and it is solely my choice how I feel.
We really do have a magic wand disguised as CHOICE, it’s up to us to use it.
“EGO says: “once everything falls into place, I will feel peace”. Spirit says, “find your peace, everything will fall into place” – Marianne Williamson