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Let’s give our children the gift of AWARENESS!
By Jenaya Huxter
Imagine if we could teach our children to become aware? Of themselves, their own feelings and emotions… Of others and the way people act and deal with their own stuff.
Imagine if our children could feel, think, reflect and understand that in those moments of struggle, of feeling and emotion they had the ability to take a step back, look at their own feelings, emotions and situation from a calm, safe, diplomatic place…
Imagine if in those moments where they are feeling attacked, be-little, hurt or bullied they had the awareness to take that step back and look back in with empathy, kindness, love and acknowledgement…
Imagine if we could give our children the GIFT of AWARENESS…
With that one simple thing, we could and CAN change the world.
We can empower people to drive forward with love, passion and empathy.
We can empower people to reflect, feel and align…..
Imagine if AWARENESS was taught in schools… AWARENESS would be a superpower for children, their intellectual and mental nourishment and their self-confidence.
I have grown up in a world where women are tearing themselves apart… “I don’t like this bit”,
“I don’t like that bit”… “I am not good enough”… “Can I really do this?”… “But look at that person”…
We have created a society of women looking outside of themselves for nourishment, for confidence, for encouragement. We have created a society where we tear ourselves down, we judge and tear down others, because of how terribly we feel about ourselves internally. We are too worried about the opinions of others to be ourselves for who we are… and that is sad. There are so many women and PEOPLE these days who are just feeling disconnected, un-loved, un-appreciated and are struggling to deal with everyday life.
We have created a society where men are closed down, they feel although they can not feel, can not express, they can not show emotion, they need to portray that “front”, they need to be that “tough” guy, the one in charge, the one in control, the one keeping it all together and that is a heavyweight of oppressed responsibility to carry. We are raising a society of repressed males’ and look where that’s leading us. We have more suicide, self-harm, violence and abuse than ever before (since we started to generate the common sense of killing and violence = bad at least)…
The divides between us are getting greater, the battle to overcome it is both getting further away and pushed further into the limelight.
Like most great societal ideas, 20 or so years go by and we go “Ohh, whoops… That’s how that turned out…”
Imagine if we could give our children the gift of awareness?
Imagine if they taught that in schools?
Imagine if our children knew….
It’s okay to feel, it’s okay to express, it’s okay to believe..
It’s okay to have your own unique values, traits, beliefs, and flaws.
We ARE all different and that is okay.
Whether we are being the best versions of ourselves or someone else people will and won’t like us either way… But we can only ever feel truly happy, fulfilled and empowered if that person we are embodying is ourselves.
We all have our values, we all have our own morals, and beliefs…
We all like, love and hate different things…. And that’s okay…
We are all individuals but we can come together in a safe space of love, support, integrity and kindness….
It is OKAY to be yourself.
It is OKAY to not fit in with the norms of others and the conforms of society.
It is OKAY to speak up or to speak out if something does or doesn’t feel good or sit well with you. We are all different but when coming from a place of love, kindness and empathy we can express our own unique values and beliefs without having to suppress or repress our true and highest forms of self or judge that of others.
Imagine if our children learnt to tap into their thoughts, their feelings and emotions and ask themselves those questions. Okay, where is this coming from? Why do I feel this way? How can I fix this? What am I missing? What can I do? Is this the right choice? Does this feel good for me? Does this sit well with me? and actually build that AWARENESS and RECOGNITION of their own thoughts, feelings and values in those moments…
Imagine if they learnt these skills and could apply these simple things to life, the way they deal with stress, frustration, sadness and indecision?
Imagine IF our children could become aware and recognise these thoughts and emotions in others?
There is a lot of talk, conversation and solution around bullying…. Let’s talk about how it’s bad, let’s deal with the bully, let’s put an action plan in place. But are we looking at the reason for the bullying OR simply giving children the gift of awareness so when they are on the other side of this aggression or outward repression in their lives they can recognise it and go “Okay, this is outside of me, this person is going through something.”
Yes, sometimes we frustrate or trigger people, yes, sometimes people frustrate or trigger us…
BUT bullying and aggression comes from a very internal space, one that is trying to deal with something.
A bully is experiencing something, a thought, an emotion, a problem and this is their way to try and deal with it…
Imagine if our children knew this Imagine if our children could have the awareness to recognise this in those moments… Both as children and adults when faced with aggression and emotion.
If someone is coming at them if someone is being unfair, nasty, mean…. Whether that be a child, an adult, even an animal… That person, that soul… Is dealing with something…
If our children on the receiving end of the bullying and aggression could take that emotional step back and go “okay that hurts, that’s unkind… But that has NOTHING TO DO WITH ME, that is NOT MY FAULT, that person is dealing with something, that person is hurt, that person is missing something in their lives… Yes, this is unfair, yes this isn’t nice… But no, this is not about me… What they are saying, or doing is not a reflection of me… It’s an outward reflection of what is going on inside of them, and this person is trying to deal with something”
With the GIFT OF AWARENESS, we can raise the next generation of children as strong, self-confident, emotionally intelligent, genuine, driven, strong-willed, empowered people leading the way in this world with love, empathy and kindness.
With the GIFT of AWARENESS… We CAN – CHANGE THE WORLD…
We can raise our young men and women to be confident, fulfilled, self-empowered, loving, emotionally intelligent leaders in the community.
Speaking up for what they believe, leading the way with love, empathy, kindness and value.