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Only the lonely.
By Joan Charles
Having worked for myself for over three decades I know what its like to feel alone and isolated. Many self-employed individuals face this problem and feel stuck in a rut and frustrated yet continue to repeat the process until it becomes the “Norm” and a way of life.
I am fortunate in that I was always keen to get out and about and meet up with like-minded groups whom I could connect with on many levels and if there is a secret it’s just that.
The power within the group
Andrew Carnegie, the philanthropist in his book “Think and Grow Rich” written by Napoleon Hill, had the right idea when he suggests that we need to surround ourselves with a mastermind group. A kind of personal advisors network that is there to support, guide and help when we need it.
He writes it is a “Coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony, between two or more people, for the attainment of a definite purpose.”
It is all right to be the lone wolf however we need to remember that we all need a tribe to belong to that supports our needs. As they say, no man is an island.
You may have some ideas about your own business however, there can be blocks or stagnant phases and these are the times we need impute from others. Two heads are always better than one and even better still, a group is a fertile breeding ground for fresh and new ideas and impute for your business.
I often find that when ideas dry up it is good to have an imaginary council which helps as well. This is simply putting your mind to a group of people you admire, respect and or look up to whether they are alive or past over. Move your mind to each of them in order to see what advice or ideas they would give on your business needs or ways forward. For me, that would be Einstein, Dali, Lincoln and parents who have past. Always keep your group dynamic and as diverse as possible to gain the most insight from them.
Another way to work with your group is to have them work with you on what’s called the Disney technique. One being the critic, they are there to pick fault in any ideas you have and for you to view things from a different angle.
Then we have the Dreamer who is fanciful in their ideas on your creations and they are all about the “ why not” rather than finding fault.
Lastly is the Realist who looks at everything in the most practical way to see if everything weighs up and has been researched with the “ dot the I’s and cross the T’s” approach.
Your tribe is your everything, a powerhouse of knowledge, intellect, ideas, and council – all that you could ever need and so, it is important to see the value in it and for each person involved to get the most from it.
Next year is the year of the Earth Pig in Chinese astrology and this calls for us to have our feet firmly planted on the ground, to see things from a balanced perspective. Earth signs are, Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo and you all need to be sure to have all your ideas as grounded as possible, get rid of the stubborn head and knuckle down to business and you’ll attract success – with a powerful energetic group you can do this.
If you’re an Air sign, Aquarius, Gemini or Libra then you may need to get your head out of the clouds and focus more on the practical things, I know, its not you but hey, if you want success then its got to be a part of going forward.
If you’re a water sign, Pisces, Cancer or Scorpio then there is no room for wishy-washy sentiment, you need to just suck it up and get on with the mission without getting too emotionally attached to the outcome.
For Fire signs like Aries, Leo and Sagittarius then don’t go in with all guns blazing, take a step back and be aligned with your goals. You are great at getting things started but, the mundane things need attending to also.
The choices are always there for us, go it alone which, is absolutely fine, however, come out of the cave and regroups so that you are empowering your own ideas and business and you don’t feel like the lone wolf.
We have come a long way through the age of technology but the downfall is that we have become so far removed from others that life has become too insular.
People still need people and now I see the trend turning as individuals begin to realise this is the case.
It’s a bit like digital books, they are great and less cumbersome if you need to carry them with you, however, we still like the tangibility of it and so, there are just some things we cannot do without. So, become part of a group, create your own or join One Tribe to assist you in your journey.