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Tapping into the confidence within.
By Andrew Gregory
What would your initial reaction be to being told you have an abundance of confidence within you?
If you are anything like I was the reaction is going to be a big “Yeah, right!?” with your eyes rolling in their sockets.
However, there is not a person out there that doesn’t have confidence, even if you truly believe you don’t.
There are many activities that we do on a day-to-day basis that require confidence, however; we do them with such regularity that the impact of what it takes has faded.
The result? We take them for granted.
Let’s put that to the test for a minute, if I asked you to walk up and down the stairs? Brush your teeth? Use a smartphone to send a text message? Send an email from a computer? More than likely you would have no issue in doing this. However; at some point, these “simple” tasks would have been brand new to you, and as a result, you would not have been confident about doing them. It took time to understand the task and then practice until you got it right.
This may not be something you think about and granted some of these skills would have been developed when you were a child, but it is still worth understanding that you do have confidence in these areas i.e. you are confident.
Confidence, like the above-mentioned tasks, is a skill that requires learning. Firstly by discovering how you are going to tap into it, followed by practising with it, applying it effectively, assessing the results and then modifying as required. Then? Repeat.
Sounds like a lot? Were you hoping for a quick fix?
Yeah sure there are going to be things that are going to give your confidence a boost but looking back on your own experiences would you say those things were long lasting? Probably not.
The only way to get real confidence is by putting in the work. However, and not to scare you from trying to achieve that, there are ways of making the journey more enjoyable thus giving you the boosts required to keep your journey of tapping into the confidence you have on course.
And that is what this article is going to focus on. We are going to look at just one of those areas which I believe can have a huge impact on making you feel your best and in turn help give your confidence a boost, that area is wellbeing.
This may be a term you are well aware of and practice already, in which case, fantastic! If not, wellbeing is the state of being comfortable, healthy or happy and taking care of oneself. Whether this is physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually, the options to enhance your wellbeing is limitless.
In essence, it is finding activities that are going to make you feel at your absolute best and then making them “must do’s” in your daily life.
Now I know what you may be thinking, “That’s all very good but I do not have time, I have work, I have kids, I have chores to do, where am I going to find time to be able to fit this in.”
I know, I have been there too. But I have also been on the darker side where I was stretching myself to thin and not making time for myself. I was run down, I was losing weight, I had zero confidence and that little voice in my head was full of resentment and distain.
Something you may have seen or heard people say before, how can we love and take care of others if we cannot love and take care of ourselves?
When you are so drained are you really giving the best to those that you love and are around you. At some point, it will all come tumbling down.
The great thing about taking care of your wellbeing is that it doesn’t have to be drastic changes to your day-to-day life, they can just be simple enhancements to areas that you are already undertaking.
For example, taking a shower. Something that most of us do every day but when was the last time you stepped into the shower and just enjoyed it rather than it being solely a means to an end.
Really taking the moment to enjoy the feeling of the warmth of the water on you, actually smelling the products that you use, switching off your mind to just being in the moment?
It can be simple small alterations like this that make a task seem like an experience and in turn help us feel at our best. Again find what makes you feel at your best and do it often.
Time is always an excuse for not doing something new, however not having enough time is just a limiting belief we have conditioned ourselves. When really we have all the time we need.
Again this may take some small adjustments but in the long run, is going to benefit you greatly. Take the time at night to do tasks that don’t need to wait for the morning, lay out your clothes that you are going to wear the next day, make your lunch, find and lay out everything that you need for the day ahead.
These little elements will make your morning routine more manageable and put you in a better piece of mind.
With that, try getting up earlier, yes this one can be a pain but if you have everything ready and you can even give yourself half an hour more time to wake up then you will start the day on the right foot, reducing the stress of running around and in turn doing wonders for your wellbeing.
These are just a small amount of examples and inevitably it comes down to you to find what is best for you and help you on your way to tapping into the most confident version of yourself.