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The best way to move forward.
By Robert Landau
Somebody once told me that the best way to live life is to keep moving forward. The smallest step can create the biggest wave of change. My career history is proof positive of that. I was very unhappy with my acting career in New York City. Things just weren’t turning out the way I had hoped. Each month seemed more disappointing than the last and to say that I was losing hope was an understatement. Night after night I’d bemoan my fate. It was a true “Woe is me” scenario.
I eventually came to the conclusion that the only way out of the rut I had progressively dug myself into was choosing to take my power back and plan a way out. It was then that I could actually see the Light at the end of the tunnel. I suddenly realized that I wasn’t a victim, I was a true conscious co-creator.
Once I made the choice to get out of my way, amazing things began to happen. By using the power of feeling combined with visualization, I manifested the most amazing Cruise Director career which included years of visiting remote ports of call learning the things modern societies have long forgotten. Having stepped off the cruise ships years ago, I now use the same tools of feeling combined with imagination to create a challenging and satisfying career as a National Motivational Speaker and Certified Life Coach.
I have learned that through what appears to be a great disappointment, a phoenix of new opportunity can rise from the ashes of failure and disappointment. But here’s the key, I have to be part of the process of re-imaging my destiny. It won’t happen on its own.
Why don’t things always turn out the way we’d like them to? I believe that our path in life is never a straight shot. Rather, it’s full of many twists and turns. If life were as easy as a straight shot, we wouldn’t be here. The trick is how you choose to deal with the many curves that your life’s journey tends to throw at you from time to time.
When you want something to happen, how do you go about making your wish a reality? Somewhere along the line, you need to see and feel the end-result even though you haven’t started to physically move in that direction. Your mind is a powerful tool that you can use to great effect. It can be your best friend or your worst enemy.
Sometimes initial wishes don’t come true. If things don’t turn out the way you were expecting, here are some important things to remember;
1. Don’t freak out!
Stuff happens but it’s how you choose to deal with it that makes all the difference in the world. You might not be able to change external events, but you can certainly make the choice as to how you want to react to what’s happening within. No storm lasts forever.
2. Acknowledge it
Acknowledge that things didn’t complete themselves in the best way possible and then let it go. Releasing it allows you to take the next important step. If you choose to hold on to the failure and disappointment, you’re blocking something greater from coming to you.
3. Move on
Leaving disappointment behind is one of the healthiest things you can do. It’s when you choose to dwell on the negative that things can backfire. If you constantly entertain recurring mind-chatter thoughts of why things didn’t work out the way you think they should have, you’ll never move out of that space of disappointment. Remember, thoughts combined with feelings always turn into things. Moving on lets you refresh the situation and allows you to set another goal that will have an even better ending. If you’re listening to an album of someone’s songs and you don’t like the first number, what do you do? You move on to the next. And so it is in life. You make the choice if you want to dwell on hearing the same song over and over. You always have the power to make the choice to move to the next number on the album.
Now that you’ve left disappointment behind, create a better version of exactly what you want to happen. Before you even start to go along the path of claiming what it is you want, make sure you totally believe that you’ll receive what you’re asking for. Believe that you truly deserve and are worthy of it. So many prayers and intent-filled meditations go unanswered simply because there was a core belief that prevented the final manifestation from occurring. You may not get what you want, but you will always get what you need.
Finally, make the choice to embrace life with open arms. Be open, not closed. If something doesn’t work out, move on to the next adventure. Life is so short. Why spend more time dwelling on something that didn’t work out?
You have more power than you often think you do. Realize that you are here for a reason and know that life is never a straight shot. Understanding that there will indeed be some twists and turns along the way keeps you firmly on the path you were always meant to travel. You got this!