Let go of what doesn’t nourish you anymore, and get clear on what you want.
Most healers, intuitive readers and shamans agree: this is a time to declutter your life, let go of what doesn’t nourish you anymore, and get clear on what you want.
While that sounds simple, it’s not always that easy to figure out. As a coach, it always impresses me how few people can give a clear answer the first time I ask them what they want – but again, I’ve been there. Building the life you truly desire is a journey that doesn’t happen overnight. It is a process that we must commit to, all while being aware of our heart’s desires and our limiting patterns.
So if you want to know exactly how to set a solid intent and truly redesign your life, keep on reading!
1. Take responsibility
Most of us oscillate between feeling all-powerful (believing that we can control and are responsible for everything that happens in our lives and our environment) and feeling helpless (that we have no control whatsoever, or that fates pre-determines everything anyway).
Truth seldom lies into extremes. While your spiritual beliefs belong only to you, co-creation is a good middle ground to settle on. Co-creation is the idea that you and the Universe (or God, or Source, etc) are creating your reality together. It’s like a relationship: you do your part and the other one does theirs.
Know that you are responsible (and therefore empowered) to design your life – all while admitting that your circumstances might be more challenging than most people. The hard truth is: if you keep doing what you have been doing until now, you will get the same results. If you aren’t happy with these results, you need to commit to making changes in your life. You know the saying. “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
2. Get clear on what you want
Most people wake up, knock down some coffee and go on with their day. There is little time build-in our lives to take the time to sit down and do introspective work. That is one of the reasons we so rarely stop and ask “what is it that I truly want?” Even when we do, we need to be aware enough to dodge any fake desire that has been pushed on us by society, or by our parents and communities.
Make a list of ten things you truly want to manifest or change in your life. When you’re done, look at that list: can you recognize anything that doesn’t really come from your deepest self? Do you feel excited for every one of these items at your core?
Strip away from what you have been taught to want, whether it is a certain kind of relationships, of the body or of career. If you had one year left to live and knew it, what would be on your list?
3. Do identity work
Congratulations, now you actually know what you want! Of course, you can’t just stop there and do nothing with it. For it to manifest, you need to take aligned action (meaning action that will help you bring it into your reality). But before that, I find that there is another crucial step to get clear on who do you need to be for these things to manifest in your life?
What does the person who already has everything that’s on your list believe? How do they move through the world? What do they tolerate? Not tolerate? What kind of energy do they have?
What are the steps you need to take to get to be that person? Calling in this higher version of you is something you can do every day, starting now. In every situation, ask yourself what that version of you would be doing and act as such. This is great energy and vibrational work – get excited about figuring out who that person is!
This isn’t about working hard until you ‘get there’, while not appreciating who you are right now. What this exercise does is:
Allow you to be clear about the beliefs you need to have to get where you want to be.
Allow you to make a game out of bringing higher vibrations into your life, which is a really powerful practise to accelerate your results.
4. Be present in your body
So many people are cut out of their bodily sensations. This is truly important to remediate because we only have access to a small part of our intelligence when we move through the world in that way. We actually know now through scientific research that neuron-like cells exist in our heart and gut. You need to be in touch with these centres of intelligence too.
Too many of us rely only on our intellectual mind. Can you take 5 minutes to just sit and breathe every day? That’s a resolution you can actually follow. Everyone has 5 minutes a day.
Is there any tension in your body? Get curious. Do you have chronic pain? Where is it located? Once you get this information, try to first guess what it is related to, both physically and emotionally. Then, get fascinated and do some research. There is so much out there: tantra, Chinese medicine, and energy healing. All these practices can help you figure out what your sensations correspond to, and get more skilled in tracking and understanding these feelings.
As I have said, taking aligned action is crucial when it comes to manifesting the life you want. Once you have your list, can you make a practice out the items you have written down? For example, if you really want to be a yoga teacher, can you commit to finding a yoga teacher training?
Find what works better for you to hold yourself accountable: is it to have a date by which you decide you’ll have it done? Or committing to a small practice every day: like reading a book from one of your favourite yoga teachers before going to bed to learn more? Or going to at least two yoga classes a week to your local studio?
Don’t go too crazy: we sabotage ourselves by setting objectives that just aren’t attainable. If you decide that you must do two hours of power yoga a day, you’re setting yourself up for failure (and that’s also not necessarily the best for your body!). Pick things that you know you will actually get to.
When you get something on your list, celebrate! This is a journey and every time you do something that brings you closer to your goals, it’s a win for you. So congratulate yourself for doing a five meditation practice or writing a page before going to work… whatever you are reaching for!
Remember that every day, not only New Year’s eve, is an opportunity to commit to what nourishes your spirit and making the most out of your time in this life! Focus, commitment, and clarity are all things that can help you reach for what you truly yearn for if you practice them daily.
And remember, no matter what happens, no matter the ups and downs on this journey, you are beautifully human, and that’s good enough.