I dedicate this article to anyone who has ever suffered the loss of a loved one, and those of you who are in the process of getting ready to say goodbye to your nearest and dearest. I realise that death can be quite a difficult subject for many of us, so I’d like to take this opportunity to share with you some insights on how to cope and maintain your happiness through such difficult times. One of the coping mechanism that I often use is to remind myself that death is not the end of life it is a rebirth of the soul. The soul is eternal, and it will always find another body in which to reincarnate. This reincarnation often takes place within the same Soul Group or Soul Family. A great example of a soul reincarnating being reborn into the same Soul Family is when a family member passes away, and a child that resembles them is born into the same family.
As a child, I always felt like I knew all of this information about the soul never dies, but many of my family members and friends would often dismiss my insights, so naturally, I stopped sharing my thoughts. It was very apparent that most people around me couldn’t quite grasp what I was attempting to articulate, until one day when I listened to an audiobook, by what became one of my favourite authors, Dr Judith Orloff. After listening to her audiobook entitled Intuitive Healing: 5 Steps to Physical, Emotional, and sexual Wellbeing, I was pleasantly surprised to find that someone else out there shared my views on death.
In her book, Dr Judith Orloff talks about her emotional experience with her father’s deteriorating health, pending death, and how she was able to cope. I discovered Dr Orloff’s book just before my Grandmother in Uganda passed away. My Grandmother meant the world to me. She was the source of my spiritual inspiration, way back in the days when I was about 7 years old. I spent my long summer holidays in the Mabira Forest village with her, and I soaked in all the wisdom and knowledge that she shared with me. Whether it was natural and herbal medicines, healthy eating, or spirituality, my Grandmother provided the foundation for most of what I know today.
Needless to say that when this wonderful woman passed, I was very upset, but grateful for all that she had been, and had meant to me, both as a youngster and as an adult. Amongst all of my grieving, the one thing that I remembered to hold on to was the fact that she was not gone forever. I could still feel her presence around me, and even to this day, when I need my Grandmother, I know that I am able to call on her. I can always rely on her to guide me through the day.
So If The Soul Of A Loved One Never Dies, Then How Can We Reconnect With It? Here Are 5 Suggestions:
1. First and foremost, be open-minded. If you have a closed mind, you will miss the very subtle signs of your loved ones being in your presence
2. Never verbally share your experience with people who don’t understand, as they will only discourage you from connecting with your loved ones. I know about this because I have experienced it from different people for many years.
3. If you’re loved ones are terminally ill, and in a hospital or a hospice at the moment, then the next time you visit them, I would encourage you to ask them, to give you some signs, by which you will recognise their presence once they have left their earthly bodies. Remember that a soul never dies, so even if your loved one has lost all memory, please remember that their soul is still very much alive and listening to every word that is being spoken. Ask for their soul to eternally connect with yours. The importance of this will become more apparent when they have passed on. For example, whenever I ask for my Grandmother to come and help me resolve an issue, there’s usually a sudden change and shift in my energy and consciousness, where everything seems to make so much more sense, and it’s almost like looking a problem with a different set of eyes…it’s amazing.
4. If you never got the chance to ask your loved ones for a sign, then I suggest that you recall in your memory something that was very dear to them. It could be their favourite colour, a favourite song, favourite author, or even their favourite holiday destination. Once you have these memories firmly placed in your mind, keep a focus on them, and then ask for the guidance of your loved one. Remember to pay attention to the subtle changes as I mentioned earlier on. This really does work.
5. When connecting with your loved ones, keep your body and energy clear, and look out for subtle shifts, experiences, and changes to your day. Another one of my favourite authors is Dr Wayne Dyer he passed away a couple of years ago. Wayne loved Monarch Butterflies, and during his memorial service, it was clear from what his friends at HayHouse were saying, that he was connecting with them at every opportunity in various ways, which included the appearance of Monarch Butterflies. Wayne Dyer often encouraged people to think of death, not as the end, but as the beginning of a new and exciting life. In one of his talks, I remember him telling the audience to think of death as though the deceased person was in a room next door, a room in which we cannot physically access. They can still see us and hear us.
How To Recognise When A Loved One Is About To Pass Away:
In Dr Orloff’s book, she describes the moments leading up to her father’s passing. She talks about him seeing old friends and relatives who’d passed away many years ago. From his hospital bed, her father tells her that the deceased friends and relatives are in the room with him, they have come to visit him and they are talking to him. If your dying loved ones ever say these things to you, please do not dismiss them as nonsense, and please do not think that they are losing the plot. This is a sign that they have begun their transition to the other side, one that we are unable to access.
In order to get an idea of what I am talking about I highly recommend a Ted Talk by Dr Christopher W. Kerr. He is the Chief Medical Officer at The Centre for Hospice and Palliative Care, where he has worked since 1999. His background in research has evolved from bench science towards the human experience of illness as witnessed from the bedside, specifically patients’ dreams and visions at the end of life. Although medically ignored, these near universal experiences often provide comfort and meaning as well as insight into the life led and the death anticipated. You can find this TEDx Talk on the Venus Club YouTube Channel by visiting:
An important note to remember is that your connection to your loved ones is so much more powerful when the veil between our world and the spiritual world is at it’s thinnest during Mercury Retrograde, New Moon and Full Moon phases. If you need any further assistance on finding your happy place during bereavement or difficult time please feel free to connect with me at:
Intuitive Energy Healer & Mentor, Natural Health Enthusiast, Natural Health Researcher.