“Oh no, not again!” you say to yourself. “Looks like I’m stuck. Sad to say but I guess it’s just gonna be another one of those days!”
Everyone knows what that feels like and it goes without saying that few people enjoy finding themselves in that space. It’s as if you are stuck in neutral, unable to move, with your engine idling wasting valuable fuel. Just when you thought things were going great, the clouds block the clear blue sky and you land in what feels like a huge pothole on the road of life. Once your car is in it, getting it out is nothing short of a major undertaking.
Feeling stuck is nothing new to any of us. Find one person who has never felt stuck and I’ll find you a person who has never experienced life. All too often it seems to be a necessary destination on the road that each one of us travels on. It’s called life.
In the world we find ourselves presently living in, it’s even easier to feel you’ve landed in a place that seems as if it’s impossible to successfully emerge from.
So here’s the question; Is the feeling of being stuck or being in neutral something that is real and tangible, or is it more of a feeling that you are indulging in because outer circumstances might not be going the way you’d like them to?
Are you allowing outer circumstances to control you or are you rising to the occasion and taking control of your cars’ wheel? Pitfalls are bound to come up and when they do, it’s all about how you choose to handle the situation at hand.
Think of the last time you felt as if you were in neutral. In other words, when was the last time you truly felt stuck? As you continue to recall the situation, how did you end up handling it? Did you react in such a way that you were eventually able to move on, get your gear shift back into drive and continue down your road? Or, did you allow the emotion and negative aspects of being in neutral become a huge issue that literally took on a life of its own?
Being stuck is a real thing. It’s a feeling and an energy. How long you choose to stay there makes all the difference as to whether you will emerge victorious. Remember, you are the one driving your car down the road of life. You might need to repair your car when it hits the pothole of neutrality, but then it’s up to you to get back in your car, start the engine, pay the repair bill and drive on.
When bad things happen, we often tend to attach ourselves to the situation and end up believing that we are the situation. This is how we become stuck. Our gear shift is now in the neutral position. It’s a strange place of being neither here nor there.
Rather than letting the situation pass on and move through us, we end up becoming that situation which in effect, doesn’t allow us to move on and leave the issue behind us. Choosing to stay there too long often results in feelings of loss, helplessness and disempowerment.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are some easy tips to keep in mind the next time you happen to find yourself in neutral;
1. Identify the situation –
Knowing what’s going on is the key to being able to acknowledge it and ultimately, move on down the road.
2. Believe that you can overcome the situation and that it’s only temporary in nature –
This immediately identifies the issue as being short-lived. There won’t even be an opportunity for you to believe you are the situation because you are now taking the time to free yourself from it. You are now assuming control as opposed to letting the situation control you. Always remember that thoughts become things. It’s the way the Universe works.
Don’t ever allow yourself to attach to the emotion of an issue. Do whatever it takes to separate yourself from the negativity at hand. By so doing, you end up shifting energy which you once thought would never move on. Dorothy might very well have been stuck in Oz if she didn’t ultimately realize that her visit there was temporary. When she remembered that she had the power all along, she stopped giving it to everyone else and realized that there’s no place like home. Home is where you return to after the dark clouds of neutrality disappear.
3. What will it take to solve the issue so you can move on? –
Once you’ve devised a plan to move on, don’t forget to do it! What’s the point of having a plan if you don’t end up using it? It might not even be as complex as you think. Sometimes the simplest steps forward make the biggest waves of change. Make it easy on yourself. It’s always up to you.
Remember, all clouds are temporary. Who and what you are is the clear and radiant blue sky behind those clouds.
4. Breathe! –
How does it feel shifting from neutral back into drive? You are much more powerful than you often realize. Using your power to move you through life has many rewards.
Realizing that it can be so much easier to move on from situations that once appeared to be all-consuming is what life is all about. The joy of living in this day and age has everything to do with being able to navigate all the challenging twists and turns down the road. Sometimes things that appear to be solid are, upon closer examination, quite transparent in nature. Staying in neutral won’t do it. Choosing to keep your hand firmly on the wheel while you are driving means you’ll eventually get to where you want to be. If you veer off the road, don’t make more of it than it is. You got this. Just do what it takes to get back on the straight and narrow.
You can’t control what happens on the outside of you. Know that you have all the power you need to balance how you react to those events. The key is how you choose to process issues within yourself. The race you find yourself running is between you, yourself and you. Could it be that you’ve already won the challenge but the only person who doesn’t realize this is you?
In my 15 year speaking career, I have been fortunate to deliver over 3,200 Keynote and Seminar Experiences in over 20 countries and have published five books. I am also a results-oriented Certified Life Coach that works with individuals and businesses to help facilitate positive experiences and productive change.
My mission? To help people remember what they think they’ve forgotten…that they have the will, intent and power to create the life they want, in and out of the office. All they have to do is do it. I provide them with the tools to get there in an energetic, fun and interactive way that is totally unique and slightly out-of-the-box.