Are you like others? Do you tell yourself, “I’ll do that tomorrow” or “I’ll get that done later” or “I promise I’ll do that later” or “we’ll do that next year”? Even better, “I’ll start/stop tomorrow”.
I’m going out on a limb and guess most of the time “it” doesn’t happen tomorrow, next month or next year.
I would like to share four strategies that helped me and will help you live in the present by honoring today. These strategies will help you stop procrastinating and live your life in and from your whole heart. Living your life in and form a whole heart is simple. I’m inviting to take a little time to explore what that really means for you. It will differ from person to person, that’s the beauty of this amazing life. Let’s start with four proven strategies to help you get started. Proven? Yes, I have used these myself with success.
Know your purpose.
What legacy do you want to leave on this world, or better yet, what is your purpose in this beautiful life? Why do you do what you do? It is crucial to know what makes you feel passionate about life. How do you find your purpose? Let’s begin here. My favorite way to explore this is to take a deep dive into the future, yep I said the future. “But Christine, you just wrote, we are living in the present moment!” Yes, and this is simply an exercise in visualization. Visualize what legacy you have already left on the world, with you kids, or in your community. This will give you a destination. You can now work backwards by chunking out what it would take to be where you visualize your future self. If that is too much, visualize your tomorrow and doing one thing you have determined will meet the vision of your future. There is one thing to keep in the forefront of your mind, you must believe in you! You must know in your whole heart you deserve happiness, fulfillment, and the life you envision. You are enough!
The next step is understanding
“One of the most powerful, enlightening and liberating moments a person can experience is the realization that it’s not about what we do, it’s about why we do it and the impact that has on others and the world around us.” – Craig McHugh.
So, of course I’m going to ask you why? Why are you climbing that mountain? Why are you losing that weight? Why are you starting that business? Understand your purpose and your why! IT’S NEVER ABOUT WHAT! Now you know your why, you can be intentional about your actions.
Get your ducks in a row.
Once you know your why, purpose, or mission, your driven desire, and you know how it fits into your purpose, you will make it a priority. If you are uncertain, it makes it a bit trickier. I find it best to map out what you know and what you think you might need to do to make your vision a reality. There might be thousands of things on your map, now is the perfect time to prioritize them. I call this “chunking”. I would suggest this be something you do with another person. Why? Well, we as humans tend to sabotage our own plans, or doubt our abilities. We find reasons things won’t work etc. So, enlist a helper that fully supports your vision, that you trust and can challenge you if they feel you are sabotaging your own vision. (believe me it happens more times than not.)
Building on the first two strategies, it is important to focus energy on your vision. How aggressive should you be working on your vision? It is personal for everyone. I like to put a plan in place. My plans consist of usually at least an hour a day working toward the vision I have created. (ps it’s better to make progress than to be perfect!) Any amount of progress is still progress. So how to make your hour a priority. It’s about discipline and honoring yourself and your journey. Calendar you time. Declare your vision to your family and friends. If they know and support, you they will help you carve out that hour. This is also be a great opportunity to ask if they would be willing to be your accountability partner. The idea of this type of relationship is to challenge your limiting beliefs, and to keep you focused in the right direction. I would also make sure you express how you would want any feedback and to challenge beliefs. If these standards are not set up front, your accountability partner, may deliver information in a way that could derail the process. Be open, ask for what you need, and remain flexible. They are here to help. If you are not getting your needs met, it is ok to find a more suitable accountability partner. During this journey there will be times we fear failure, rejection, or even success. It is necessary to be aware of these feelings. Acknowledge them and keep going. If we sweep them under the preverbal rug, it can be debilitating and boom we are stuck… again. Lean in and keep going. This is one thing we must avoid if we are seeking to live in and from a whole heart. These things are not weakness, in fact acknowledging them is an act of strength and courage. To acknowledge the feelings of doubt and fear and move through them. It will make your journey to your vision that much more rewarding and beautiful.
It’s today, not yesterday or tomorrow.
If you stress or overthink something, two things happen. Remember you are in fact human and your mind is powerful. When you are surprised with an event, or have decisions to make, and if you are not aware of our own rules, values, and beliefs, you will create a version in your mind of how you think the outcome will be before it happens. By the way, this happens to most every single one of us. If you create fear in your head, your journey will be full of fear and doubt. When it is all said and done, most likely you will have convinced yourself it’s not worth all the fear and doubt and you will quit. We want to avoid quitting. Remember any progress is, well progress. We are alive right now. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow is a new day full of opportunities. To live in the present moment, you must understand that there may not be a tomorrow, there may not be a next week, heck, there may not be a next year, we must live for today. Yes, it’s scary (if you let it be scary) if we’re going to take risks. If you spent too much time thinking about the outcome and not strategically thinking about it being amazig, it can be that you experience the negative outcome twice. Once in your mind and then in your own reality. You want to avoid this unnecessary trauma.
Procrastinating is putting self-fulfillment on hold. With these 4 strategies, you can avoid procrastinating as you have a purpose, a plan, and an accountability partner. Believe that today is your day. We tend to wait for the right time and the right space. That is today! So, we make plans we say were going to do things, we aren’t held accountable to ourselves or to each other and we let it slide, and guess what? We wait for tomorrow, or next year. And here is the truth; You can’t beg, steal, borrow, or make up time. Know your purpose, stay focused, and remain present and in no time, you will be at your destination and you can begin the next journey.