“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment”– BUDDA
Why is it we hear all too often “doesn’t time fly” “where has the year gone?” “time just goes faster and faster”
A little way into the New Year and we may have simmered down from the boil a touch.
The excitement, focus and anticipation for the New Year ahead can soon lose its edge, why is that?
I believe it’s because of our inability to BE in the present moment.
We all love to feel happy, at peace and excited about having something to look forward to, because it feels good. And we all love to feel good!
On the flip side it feels rubbish when we feel crappy, out of sorts and have nothing to look forward to.
Earlier today I sat next to a newly engaged couple and their parents all having a celebratory lunch together, champagne, smiles and laughter. A joy to see.
I can only imagine they felt happy to be with each other, at peace they have found that someone special and looking forward to planning a wedding and future life together.
They were all having a joyous time getting to know each other.
Watching them all so happy and enjoying each other’s company made my heart sing and it also made me feel sad to think that so many others don’t make the same choice.
The choice to be happy.
The choice to enjoy.
The choice to be at peace.
Yes, we all have s**t happen in our lives and past experiences that we think prevents us from being happy but when we allow all that crap to define us, we allow it to rob us of what’s rightfully ours: HAPPINESS ~ PEACE ~ ABUNDANCE and more.
We get too caught up in our stories from the past and live our lives based on our past experiences, which can leave us feeling depressed or we live in fear as we worry about what will happen in the future leaving us feeling anxious and we can’t see how we will ever be truly happy and fulfilled trying to keep up with the demands of our busy lives.
The only place where we will ever feel happy, at peace and abundant is in the here and now. Learning how to BE in the present moment takes courage and a willingness to accept and let go of what your analytical mind tells you about yourself and to trust, by connecting with your heart centre and feeling the truth of your essential loving self.
This takes practice and perseverance because your analytical mind will do it’s best to prevent you from connecting to your heart centre for fear of no longer being in control. For generations, we have been led to believe that our mind knows best, when it’s our hearts that lead the way. One of the best ways I have found to BE in the present moment is by concentrating on my breathing. Breathing is something that is done for us by our autonomic nervous system, so to bring your attention to your breathing allows your analytical mind to stop racing and become still. When we become quiet and still, the gentle whispers of our hearts can be felt and heard.
As yoga teacher and enthusiast Kelle Yokeley says,
“The path to presence is through our mind, body connection ~ our path is through our breath. The breath is ALWAYS the here and now, it is the ultimate present moment…Our breath is our constant connection to the here and now, and our presence is rooted in its flow”Yokeley
The simple exercise of focussing on your breathing will bring you straight to the present moment, quietening the most stubborn mind that is wired with worries.
Next time you feel yourself feeling anxious or sad, frustrated or guilty, take a long breath in for four counts, hold for four counts and exhale for eight counts. Repeat until you feel calm and present and know you can turn to your breath whenever and wherever as your breath is AWLAYS with you.
Try this simple breathing meditation to get you started if you are new to the whole concept to see for yourself the power of coming back to your breath.
So how about making 2020 the year you master your~self and master living in the present moment… The time is NOW!
The time is NOW!
“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land, there is no other life but this”– Henry David Thoreau
Vanessa’s mission is to enable others to recognise their own magnificence, move through their fears, express their essential selves with confidence and purpose.