At one point after all the details, processes and implementations have been done, a leader needs to let go and trust the process. Trusting the process also requires letting go of the task, the project, the talk with the employee, the negotiation or whatever it is. It all disappears into the gap of trust. This gap is the place where you surrender to what some call God, the Creator, a higher power, the universe, Mother Earth, nature, the black void . . . whatever it is for you, it is important to just let it go! You need to let go of control and know that it is no longer in your hands. It is time to Surrender.
A leader using Trust Leadership™ has faith that whatever occurs is what is meant to happen. I am not saying there is not due diligence and hard work before you did this – there is – but at one point, you have to surrender. Being mindful of this time is important. Are you anxious or are you at peace? Anxiety is a sign you are still holding on.
Peace is believing that you are functioning at a higher energy level and you are one with the energy of the process.
I had to get a vote passed at city council for an organization I volunteer for. I met with almost all the council members and then I had to trust the process. I had done my work and now I needed to surrender. We won the motion with 9 votes out of the 12. We could have lost and it would have impacted our organization tremendously but I trusted the process because I had done the work and built trust with city council members.
True power is owning the process and trusting you have done all you can, and now you need it to flow where it needs to go. This is a time of observing and seeing where it goes. In the end, it might not be what you thought it was. Often, in creative processes, the end product has a completely different result but more often a better result.
It was once thought that our brains stopped growing and learning. We now know differently. Dr Marian Diamond was a pioneer in anatomical neuroscience from UCLA who studied brain plasticity — changes in anatomical make-up brought about by environmental causes. She even studied Albert Einstein’s brain to see what the mind of a genius would be like in relation to other normal males. Her research revealed that parts of his brain had more glial cells per neuron than the average male brain. What this meant was that when people were in a learning environment and focused on strengths they created changes in the brain.
It is important to understand how the brain works, how new neural pathways are created, and how this knowledge helps in building trust. Research shows that we create new neural pathways and neurons all the time. Why is this important? Because we can learn the skills of self-awareness, communication and energy and with practice shift from a distrustful working environment to a joyful and collaborative environment.
An example of neuroplasticity in action is people using visualization with set goals to improve performance. Action and imagination activate the same parts of the brain. This has been shown to work with musicians and athletes. Often with clients, we will do visualization exercises for them to practice new behaviour.
By practising the techniques of self-awareness, communication and energy, we can become better leaders, enhance teams and accomplish great things. By acknowledging we are learning, great accomplishments can occur for ourselves and our teams. I have actually had people tell me “I know it all”. That claim always fascinated me. I will NEVER know it all!!! Leadership is about lifelong learning. Leadership is about being curious and comfortable around uncertainty. The more you know the less you know! There is fear around uncertainty, but as a leader, you learn to embrace the uncertainty and to work with it. A competent leader is an agile leader.