Yes, I know that it sounds crazy, but your emotional pain can indeed be your greatest source of happiness. Take a moment now to think about what emotional pain you have or are currently experiencing, and how you have chosen to deal with the situation. Are you relaxing into it, embracing it, and trying to learn the lessons from the experience, which created your emotional pain, or are you completely submerged into your emotions and feelings, and completely missing the lesson which, the emotional pain was sent to teach you?
Even though many of us are aware that we create our own reality, which includes how we choose to feel in any given situation when it comes to various areas of our lives. It’s worth noting that we’re often happy to accept the positive changes in our lives, yet when it comes to experiencing emotional pain, we tend to fight these changes because we perceive them as negative. What if I told you that you have the power within you to transform your emotional pain into positive and happy outcomes?
For those of you who have ever been through emotional pain and made the decision to embrace it, rather than fight it, you will have experienced the power of self-awareness, acceptance, and embracing change in your life. Now, at this point some of you might be thinking, how could emotional pain possibly be a source of my happiness? I’d like to give the example
of a story that one of my favourite authors Dr Wayne Dyer once told in a radio station interview. One afternoon, Dr Dyer had turned up to a radio station in America. As he walked around the radio station, he noticed a lot of sad and miserable faces. So he decided to ask one of the people at the radio station why everybody was looking so sad and miserable. One of the guys at the station replied by saying, ‘we have all just been made redundant’. Dr Wayne Dyer smiled at the guy and told him that they should all be happy, that they are being made redundant. The guy looked at him as though to say, why on earth would I be happy that I’m being made redundant?
Dr Wayne Dyer went on to ask the guy if he had any hobbies or interests. The man looked confused at this question, but then he went on to respond by rolling off a list of some of his hobbies. Dr Dyer then told him it was great that he had so many hobbies, which he could focus on. The man responded by saying that with all the hours he was putting into the radio station, he barely had any time at all to spend on his favourite hobby. Dr Wayne Dyer then smiled at the guy and told him that at least now he would have more time to spend on his hobbies. The conversation was left at that and Dr Wayne Dyer went on to do his interview.
Months later he received an email from the guy at the radio station, informing Dr Dyer that he had managed to turn his hobby into a very successful and lucrative business. In his email, the guy at the radio station went on to thank Dr Dyer for giving him such great advice, and that if it wasn’t for Dr Dyer, he would never have discovered the fact that he could turn his hobby into a very successful business, and be happy running a business which he really loved.
The story of the guy at the radio station is just one of many examples that I could give you of how embracing and accepting your painful emotions can indeed produce very positive and happy outcomes in your life.
In my own life, I have experienced my fair share of emotionally painful moments, and I observed that the more resistance I showed towards my emotional pain, the more of the same situation I continued to experience. The moment I chose to accept and embrace my pain by looking for the lessons the pain had been sent to teach me, I began to experience joyful and happy changes in my life. The more we choose to wallow in our own self-pity and keep asking ourselves, ‘why me?’, the more we are likely to miss the lessons entirely and become stuck in an unconscious state of thinking and being. A great degree of self-awareness and conscious thinking is essential to living a positive happy life.
In my case, I got myself into a loop of constantly attracting what I thought at the time to be the wrong partners. I was moving from one relationship to the next, without really taking the time out to analyse and think about the life lessons, which those relationships had been sent to teach me. The consequence of that was that I continued to attract relationships in which I was seriously unhappy.
When I took a moment to look back at all other relationships in which I was very unhappy, I actually realised that all of those relationships had one particular thing in common. I often neglected my own needs within the relationships, and instead focused more on the needs of my partners, because I was constantly putting myself last in every situation. This meant that I would often experience feelings of misery within myself. In essence, I was actually creating my own unhappiness by unconsciously going from one relationship to the next, and refusing to see how I was creating my own misery and subconsciously refusing to accept change in my life.
The moment that I chose to think differently about my relationships, and accepted and embraced my painful emotions, I then began to experience a much happier and joyful life. As Dr Wayne Dyer once said, “Happiness is not something that you get in life, happiness is something that you bring to life.” By looking within myself, and being mindful of my actions and feelings, I was finally able to attract the right man into my life. Learning to put myself first was a good step towards learning to love myself, which resulted in meeting a wonderful man who loves me, encourages, and supports me. He also recognises that there are times where I do have to focus on myself in order for me to rediscover my inner happiness. Letting go of my emotional pain certainly helped me to emotionally heal and find true happiness.
We all deserve to rediscover the happiness within ourselves, but if we choose to live an unconscious life, then true happiness will continue to allude us. The love and support that my partner shows me every day has encouraged me to realise my own potential, in so many ways. As a result, I have gone on to create a website where myself and my team of Business and lifestyle consultants are helping other people to create and maintain a happier, healthier, and more productive lifestyle. If you would like to take the first step in finding happiness and fulfilment in your current situation, then feel free to visit my website and book a free consultation with either myself or my consultants.
Intuitive Energy Healer & Mentor, Natural Health Enthusiast, Natural Health Researcher.